I've been thinking a lot about my marriage lately. Is this strange? I don't know. I mean, we ALL think about our marriages a lot... we have to because we live with the insanity each day right?
I've been married to Duke over 17 years... not an epic amount of time but nothing to sneeze at either. Especially for a 37 year old.
Our marriage is typical.. at least I think it is. We squabble over stupid crap where I am right and he is just stupid. We spend all of our free time together, rarely go to bed separately, make joint decisions on parenting of the delinquents, and share the same views on religion etc. I go to Duke when I have a problem at work, with friends or just a problem within myself and need third party advice (he's pretty good at drilling down to the root of the issue and is a great listener). I know that even when I make Duke REALLY, REALLY mad and he says stuff that is REALLY, REALLY uncalled for that he still loves me and he isn't going anywhere. I'm not everything he needs all the time and neither is he.<---believe me.. snort. After all these years I think we have come to that realization and have learned to ignore those things we wish we could change. Basically... I have given up expecting him to ever be tidy or even halfway decent when it comes to cleanliness. He has given up expecting an abundance of affection from me and knows that even though I don't pinch his butt as we pass in the hall... I still love him with everything I have.
So why am I posting this?
Well, I stumbled across this a few days ago. It's a listing of the 50 best blogs for marriage advice. My blog is listed there. I have no idea who runs this site but I have to tell you I (heart) them! Not because they listed me, although I am flattered... I think its great that with all the crap I put on this blog about Duke and his antics and his epic dumbassness.. someone understands that this is a healthy marriage. It doesn't have to look like Ozzie and Harriet every day as long as there is mutual respect, patience and love behind every action.
For those of you who have stopped by looking for the typical marriage advice... the kind where a educated lady in a tight suit is sitting behind a desk pushing you to discuss your sex lives... this isn't that place.
This is just Chief... trying to survive this....
and this...
and this...
without ending up in front of the lady in the tight dress talking about my non-existent sex life.
12 crazy comments. I'm still waiting for yours!:
kudos! on all accounts.
At the risk of being a bit too forward...after 17 years of marriage (same as us), I recommend you pinch his butt more often and I recommend the same thing to my wife (who is at this very moment looking over my shoulder.)
No need for your husband to thank me even though I know he would.
Oh pinch the man's ass already, would ya? Go girl!
Hehe, not only are you on that list, you're in the top 10!! Makes ya wonder what their criteria were, eh!
Awesome!! :)
Pinch the man's ass will ya!? :)
Good call in not pinching his ass - they get expectations then, and well, we all know we are just too damn tired.
Great job on being listed as a marriage advice site. I love how you keep it real. Can I call you sometime Dr Ruth if I got's some questions?
PS - Next time I attend a "Passion" party - I am SO BRINGING YOU!!!
Awesome post!! I found you blog hopping around and can't wait to catch up on your prior posts :) Hope you can come visit me http://loveiseverywhere.blogspot.com/
Kate
Peace & Love
Passion party...bwaa haaa haaa.
Oh sorry. Congrats on the list! #10 and it wasn't alphabetical :-)
Meanwhile, I need some advice. Do you agree that more than once a year is just overkill ;)
I think Kate up there is a skimmer.....just sayin'. ;)
:-) I heart you and your honesty.
A marriage without honesty... well. Not a marriage I'd want to be a part of.
Here's to your awesome self woman.
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Bahahahaha! I know this is an older post but I was reading back..because you are awesome...and love that you are so honest. Going through a "dry spell" myself, mainly because of me; who has the energy for that with 4 kids? THAT is how I got into this mess after all. ;) In all seriousness, life gets busy, people get comfortable and when you know you love each other then you don't need all the extra attempts, although they are nice sometimes. Too much attention gives them the wrong idea and then you're kicking yourself afterwards.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that I can see how you would be on that list for being realistic and that I'm enjoying your blog. :)
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